We all have habits, behaviours, and thoughts we want to change. People-pleasing, pressure to achieve, conditional self-acceptance, chronic self-criticism, perfectionism, fear of disappointing others. ‘Changing’ these habits is often not enough. And even when we manage to shift them temporarily, we often find ourselves returning to the same old ways, our default settings. Sometimes, then, we need to dig deeper and connect the dots between early experiences and the present. The